Understanding Polyamorous Relationships

Lizzie B.
Polyamorous relationships

Polyamorous comes from the root term polyamory which is a general term for a non-exclusive, non-monogamous and consensual romantic relationship. It is based on ethical and responsible open relationship wherein romantic and sexual partners are free to date and to commit to other people but with the consent of all parties involved. 

This means that even if you are already committed to someone, you and your partner can still date other people and have other relationships as long as it is based on consent and honesty. Basically, the practice of polyamory disregards the view that; exclusivity is necessary for deep and long-term romantic relationship. Still, a lot of people will find polyamory complicated especially when it comes to managing jealousy between all the parties involved. 

We have encountered a couple, Mark and Casey, who have been together for 8 years. No matter how challenging it was for them to maintain a steady relationship, they didn’t want to break up. For them, one is essential to the other due to years of being together and sharing almost everything. However, both Mark and Casey had become very accustomed to each other. They were partners and best friends. 

Mark and Casey realized that they wanted to start seeing other people without necessarily losing each other. So they agreed on a polyamorous relationship wherein they can both go out on dates but still have each other. They based everything on consent, honesty and communication. 

It was Casey who first started dating another man. Not long after, Mark started to get fond of chat line dating phone sex where he encountered different women who are willing to chat and engage in erotic topics. He continuously went through this habit night after night on sites like phonesexchat or chatline dating, while Casey is out on a date, or is in the other room enjoying her own personal time and space. Eventually, Mark got hooked with one chat line caller who instantly became his favorite; and after several intimate conversations, they agreed to meet up.

There are days when Mark and Casey would openly discuss their newfound relationships even as they manage their own. They still live together in one house, share things like they usually do, and even have sex together – just like any regular couple. However, outside their house, they’re seeing and dating other people. That’s how their polyamorous relationship works. And surprisingly, they are able to manage it well. 

Now that you have a better idea about polyamory, would you consider such arrangement? Do you have the heart and the mindset to understand or accept such relationship? Still, choosing to do so is a mature decision because it demands a different level of understanding and openness to make it work. After all, we are free to make certain choices in this life just as long as we don’t end up hurting anyone.

How to Move On After a Painful Break-Up

Lizzie B.
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Moving on after a painful break up is never easy. It takes an astronomical amount of strength and will-power to get back on track and to carry on. No amount of comforting and reassurance will ever be good enough to make you feel better and to encourage you. If you are in this situation right now, you can benefit from these insights that we’re about to share with you. 

We want you to know that we understand what you’re going through. However, life doesn’t end there. In fact, you can take this as an opportunity to explore new things that you might otherwise miss if you are still in a relationship that is bound to end anyway. So take this as a challenge and slowly move on towards a life that is more promising and rewarding.

It’s ok to cry

Cry if you must. That’s natural and completely understandable. We are humans and it’s within our nature to feel and get emotional. So whenever you feel like crying, just let it all out. Take it as a way to release all the pain and frustration. When you’re done, you’ll feel a lot better and more composed. 

If you feel like detaching yourself for a while, you’re entitled to that. You deserve an “alone time” so you can realign your elements and shake it off your system. Don’t feel guilty about choosing not to talk to anyone for some time. You owe it to yourself to cry and feel sad after a break up. It’s part of the process. Just make it a point to not wallow in self-pity for a long time because there’s a whole new and exciting world that awaits you.

Accept and let go

You are entitled to your own life and no one has control of your life but you. A break up, no matter how painful it is, does not signal an end. You still have your whole life ahead of you and the world is filled with so many people who might just become your friends. So stop chasing for things that are not meant for you. Accept that some things are meant to end at some point, and learn to let go. It is only when you let go of the things that are not meant for you that you can start to realize that something better might be in store for you.  Acceptance can bring in a wave of hope that eventually, it will all turn out for the best.

Life goes on

No matter how broken you are; the world will not stop for you. The world will still turn and there will still be night and day. People will go on to live their normal lives and it would be “business as usual” at work. Basically, life will go on whether you choose to cry or be happy. It’s all up to you if you will choose to live the rest of your mornings crying or facing a new day; because despite of what you’re going through; life will go on. 

Live for yourself

We acknowledge how you feel. In fact, feelings are always valid. However, they’re not always acceptable. It’s ok to feel the pain and all the hurt, but it doesn’t make sense to make your life revolve around them. Live for yourself. Don’t make excuses that you’re only human who’s capable of getting hurt. The Higher Power didn’t create a whole lot of weaknesses in you. In fact, you have been equipped with a mind to think and to be rational. 

Start by thinking of it this way; “he’s not your life. He’s just a part of it”. Therefore, you can still live and be whole again. 

Love yourself

Learn to love yourself above all else. Take some time to savor your new-found freedom. Appreciate what you’re capable of doing and treat yourself to something like travel, a new look, a luxurious spa treatment, or a new wardrobe. Don’t go out looking for a new person to date or go out with. Don’t rush. Be self-sufficient. There’s no empty space to fill in because you are enough. 

Just make good use of your extra time and appreciate yourself. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have. In order to love others, you must love yourself first.

5 Ways to Maintain a Healthy and Lasting Relationship with Your Man

Lizzie B.
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Being in a relationship does not always guarantee a “happy ever after”. It takes a lot of time, effort and communication to make it work. If you are in a relationship right now, you would agree that it’s not entirely made up of flowers and butterflies. Indeed, it gives you a sense of security and belongingness. However, being in a relationship can also sometimes bring in waves of uncertainties and doubts. 

Do you want to keep the fire burning in your relationship? These 5 pieces of advice might give you insights on how to maintain a happy, healthy, and lasting relationship with your man.

Learn to appreciate

Simple acts of appreciation can make any relationship flourish. Acknowledge him when he does something sweet. Be vocal about how you feel whenever he makes an effort to make you feel special. Appreciate the little things about him. An act of appreciation also serves as reassurance to both of you.

Give each other space to grow and mature

You and your man may be in a relationship right now. But keep in mind that you’re still two different individuals with different needs and personalities. This is why it is important to respect each other’s space. Give each other the time and opportunity to do the things that you love and to pursue your passions. Giving your man the space he deserves means allowing him to grow and develop as a person. Be selfless enough to give him that.

Cut the drama

Your drama won’t sell to your man. So grow up and be wise enough to handle your issues. It is natural for women to be melodramatic and emotional in some ways. But you have to accept the fact that men are not equipped with enough patience to deal with your dramas, PMS episodes, and mood swings. So cut that drama and toughen up. Expecting him to provide you with comfort and reassurance while you cry your heart out over shallow issues won’t help.

Keep your relationship interesting and exciting

Men have this tendency to get bored easily especially once the “honeymoon” stage is over and you’re starting to get into that comfortable stage. However, you can always keep the fire burning by trying out new and exciting things together. You can plan for new adventures; travel to exciting places, go to concerts, and even whip up romantic dinners. The idea is to get to know the things that can get his adrenaline rushing. For starters, buy sexy lingerie for tonight and prepare to give him a sensual massage. Almost any man would fall for that.  

Go out with friends

Your life is not designed for just the two of you to be together. Even if you’re in a relationship, you need other people in order to grow and mature. Occasional night outs, dinners, and activities with friends can strengthen your bond and are essential to your maturity. You can also learn a lot together from being with other people because you get to engage in different topics about love, life, relationships, work, career, and even marriage.

Relationships need work. So don’t settle and be too complacent. Respect your man and acknowledge his needs. Remember that love is not a magic spell that lasts forever; but rather a feeling that can easily be influenced by the time and space around us. You’ve invested yourself and your emotions to be in this relationship so give your best, stay loyal, and follow these 5 pieces of advice to strengthen its foundation.

Here’s a video of Renee, explaining how to attract a healthy and fructiferous relationship